relationship

come to think about it, i should be thankful for him. in that short 3 months, he had actually enriched me with a lot of life lesson. i just couldn't deny the fact that he understands women more than any other men in the world. that i believe gives him the credentials to be a player, because you dont get to change the game unless you know fully how to play the game. in the middle of our second month, after i blasted out what i felt. he calmly grabbed my hand and says "sorry, i didnt know". he is the only guy i believe that ever ask me to throw my tantrum when i feel like it: "you need to express yourself when things happen and not explode a month later with accumulated stuff". it makes sense, keep short accounts.

it is unfair to give reasons of break up if whatever your reasons are something she hears for the first time in her entire time with you. fact is you dont have a relationship and you dont want a relationship. giving reasons for reasons sake is unfair because you never allow the other party room and time to change. thus it is unfair to make a judgement that this person will never change. it is not unhealthy to have differences since none of us are identical. part of a relationship is to communicate this thing and work it out anyway.

assuming that is really the day you need to end things, you never cut someone off until you give a reason. even the world of law never execute a criminal without substantial reason. yes even a criminal is given a chance to defense themselves. so as ugly as his reasons sounded, he gave it to me. knowing that i will not change my stand we moved on.

as much as there are a world of guys that prefers to suppress their feelings because women never understand. i hereby petition they learn to open up. first learn to open up to your friends it will help you in your future relationship. there is really no way to make a relationship last until people start relating. seemingly, there is no reason to want a long term relationship in the first place if they dont intend to do so long term.

i guess that is why i only date best friends. since it is not a norm for guys to open up, i can only tell when i get close enough to them. until of course they stop being your best friends...

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"In life, only one thing is certain, apart from death and taxes. No matter how hard you try, no matter how good your intentions, you are going to make mistakes. You’re going to hurt people. You’re going to get hurt. And if you ever want to recover... there’s really only one thing you can say (im sorry)."

"Forgive and forget. That’s what they say. It’s good advice, but it’s not very practical. When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back. When someone wrongs us, we want to be right. Without forgiveness, old scores are never settled… old wounds never heal. And the most we can hope for, is that one day we’ll be lucky enough to forget."
meredith, grey's