i don't love you, say it right

"Okay, guy in need of a clue. Here's one. Women send signals. That was a brush off. Before you dip into your shallow pool of wit let me paint us a picture and save us both the trouble. Here's your evening. You are going to slink back off to your buddies, laugh this off, get wasted, go home, and make nice with yourself. But don't be thinking of me, because even your fantasy of me, isn't interested in you." brooke davis' opening speech to the guys on the first day before their final year party, OTH. (this is in a DO THIS list because it is general)

guys and girls sent sign. whether they like or not. guys need sign to give them the courage to ask. girls needs sign to give them the courage to love or even think about love. on the down side, guys and girls sent sign if they are not interested as well. some sign are clear and some are overlook. from my obvious list, these* are possible sign there are not interested. but if you seriously doesn't like her but doesn't want to hurt her, read on.

DON'T DO THIS
1. don't avoid her
- spare her the agony of thinking she had done something wrong.
2. don't overexaggerate that you are not interested
- taboo: "there are so many prettier girls in this world why will i even like you". you are suppose to let her know you are not interested to start a relationship with her not kill her with insecurity, they had enough of that on their plates. basically you don't need to be a jerk to remove that feelings from her.
3. don't sent her wrong sign
- i don't think it is a problem to go out with her alone on any other day of the year if you are good friends. but don't bring her out on vday and birthday alone.

DO THIS
1. sit her down
- if she haven't tell you she likes you, it will be great for you to voice it out first that you enjoy her friendship but doesn't think that both of you can develope anymore than that. but if she has already let it out. tells her how flattered you are but you doesn't feel the same.
2. tell her what you like about her
- eventhough you don't have a eros feeling for her, i am sure there are something good about her: "i enjoy sharing my heart with you, you are a very good friend but i have feelings for someone else." or make it sounds as if it is your fault that will be better for eg: "you are too pretty, and i am not very comfortable dating a girl like you."
3. be friends, be normal.
- she had took up the courage to tell you the truth and that is not how you respond to the truth. she will be glad to know that she can still be your friends than to lose a lover and a friend on the same day.

her/she=him/he

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you have no right to stop someone from loving you, as much as you have no right to force someone to love you. therefore be flattered to know someone in this world actually thinks you are great. don't break her poor heart for letting you know that.